Sometimes the best person at keeping you on track, or paying attention to your life, isn’t the person staring back at you in the mirror. (Gorgeous as hell as that person is.)
It’s funny how it can be sooo easy to not show up for ourselves and what makes us happy – like we’re the least important thing on our ‘to do’ list. Life can get in the way and the stresses and time management challenges of a full life mean we just don’t get a say because:
“I’m too tired”
“I don’t know”
“I don’t have time”
“It’s too late”
“I can’t afford it”
“I’m too busy”
…It sucks, right? None of that stuff feels good. In fact it feels ‘yawn!’
And yet babe, when someone else asks you to pull something out of the bag for them, and deliver at short notice, you pretty often do, don’t you? In the words of Danielle LaPorte, that’s a ‘Truth Bomb’ right there!
A couple of examples of my life-coaching clients putting others before themselves include:
- Pulling ‘all-nighters’ at the office to get a report to a client for 9am – this from the guy that said he struggled to focus.
- Hustling to cut project costs to please her boss, but when we first met she said she didn’t know how to budget to factor in a holiday for herself. (She does now.)
Ultimately these guys, as with all of us, have the skills and know-how to deliver to a goal. So isn’t it time we ‘turned that on’ for ourselves and ‘showed up’ for our own wants, goals and needs? (There’s another truth bomb for you right thur.)
I’ve been working with my coaching clients to bust the blockades above. Mega mindset changes are one of the most powerful outputs of the coaching process… but I’m also there to hold clients to account and show them how to start, and keep showing up, in their lives so that what they want doesn’t slide.
It’s scary how much you could achieve if you put a few support measures in place for yourself and tapped into a cheerleader or, on a more basic level, someone that will hold you to account for yourself as your boss would!
So, I wanted to share some free insight into how you can create a ‘Power Pair’ and access the benefit of working with someone who’ll ensure you show up and move forward, whatever that means for you.
There are just a few ground rules to follow as a guide:
- Choose your Power Pair partner wisely – you’re going to be sharing some personal shiz. You need to trust them to not only be sensitive but to challenge you to account for yourself.
- Choose one clear goal you’d like to work towards in your Power Pair – it’s not their job to coach you to sort your entire life out, there are Pro’s like me for that.
- Make your Power Pair meetings regular – don’t leave it more than 10 days to download your progress, agree next steps forward that you’ll each take and off you go.
- Keep it short and sweet – 20-minute sessions should do it.
- Cheerleading and kick ass attitude are compulsory
- Pull your weight – it’s your job to deliver to yourself. It’s your wingman’s responsibility to deliver for themselves. If bot h of you pull your respective weights the motivation your Power Pair creates will be stellar strength!
OK so go find your Power Pair Partner and be each other’s wingman to pull it out of the bag for yourselves! I’d LOVE to hear how you get on and the results you achieve by combining your powers. Leave a comment below or on our FB page!
If you want to go a step further with your wingman ,one way I can help is with my Power Pair coaching.
This is coaching for two people – a Power Pair- at one time. It tends to be with couples, BFF’s or siblings that are working towards a common goal but it also works to help the individuals focus on their own path but with a buddy along for the ride that will keep them going when I’m not around! You can give me a buzz here to find out more or book a coaching aperitif.
Love Lucy xo